If you are obsessed with getting your boyfriend back, there is a lot of advice out there that says that the best thing you can do after a breakup is to give him some space. This is the cooling off period and it is necessary if you ever want another chance at getting him back. But the one thing you have to remember is that if you wait too long to re-establish contact, you risk losing him forever. There is a fine line here.
If you are wondering what steps you should be taking, here is a plan that you can follow that has been proven to get results and won’t result in your boyfriend forgetting about you.
You need to ask yourself why he left. When you started seeing each other, it seemed that you could do no wrong, and vise versa. However, as the relationship progressed, there was bound to be certain things that got on each others nerves. Perhaps it was the start of a downward spiral that ended in him dumping you. Really take some time and think about this because if you know the answer to this, there are things you can do to rectify it.
If you haven’t already ruined things by contacting him with desperate pleas to take you back, then you may have an excellent chance at re-establishing contact. In fact, even if you are guilty of harassing him with messages and phone calls, if you stop now, you can get yourself back on track. When you do contact him, make sure that it is not going to make you look desperate and needy. Do not allow your emotions to get the best of you. In fact, try being a little aloof, but friendly at the same time. And do not try to get romantic – this is not the time.
If you do end up talking to him, try to avoid an argument. That is not to say that you should let him walk all over you, but you should also let him vent a little without getting defensive. This is only going to set you back. Exercise a little patience and you won’t regret it.
Above all, make sure that you keep meetings short and don’t smother him. This is not going to happen overnight and you have to have a little self-control. Don’t allow yourself to get in the position where all you have in your life is your ex. You have to lead a life of your own and make him a part of it once in a while. Remember, slow and easy.
What you are looking for now is a balance between making yourself too available and making yourself too scarce. In other words, you want him to keep those feelings he has for you alive without smothering him.
How to get your boyfriend back.