You have just split up with the love of your life and you are hurting like nothing you’ve ever experienced before. What do you do? Is there any way to make them listen to you and re-consider? Well, while there is no magic bullet, there are steps you can take that are going to greatly increase your odds. These are steps that most of us miss when we are in midst of the incredible anguish of a breakup. We aren’t thinking clearly and, instead, make some really bad choices (actually, the exact opposite of what we should be doing).

The key to getting started on the right track is to recognize that you are running on almost pure emotion. That is not going to do anything for you, except make the situation even more tense. Remember that most of us don’t think clearly when we are listening to our emotions. We simply want the hurting to stop and will do anything to make it happen. Read the rest of this entry

Do you get the feeling that no one really knows how much you are suffering at the moment? Do you feel as though you are the only one to ever go through a breakup that is this bad? Well, as difficult as it may seem at present, you have to know that your brand of pain is really no different than anyone elses (and I don’t say that to trivialize your predicament). In fact, we have all likely experienced the same hopelessness and despair that you are feeling at this very moment at some point in our lives. The bottom line is that dealing with a breakup is not easy – no matter how you slice it. That is simply a part of being human. Read the rest of this entry