Breaking up and losing your partner is some serious stuff. It brings out extremely high emotion and sometimes we do things completely out of our character.
If you aren’t able to control your temper after a breakup, you could be in for a world of hurt. Not only will you never get your ex back, but you could also end up in jail or assaulted.
Well, maybe, but you have to realize that you aren’t in a normal frame of mind after getting dumped. You don’t really know your limits because you don’t normally get to this level of emotional distress.
Yes, I said distress.
If you find yourself in uncharted territory and you feel like you’re going to lose control, you need to get away immediately. You need to get away because you need to calm down until you’re able to deal with the situation like a rational person.
Fortunately, most of us are able to muster enough courage and common sense to stop and walk away. Those who don’t/can’t end up in trouble.
The following are examples where you would have been better off walking away.
You end up stalking your ex and confront him/her and their new partner. Now I know that it doesn’t get any worse than that, but if there was ever a time to walk away, this is it. If you get into a verbal or physical confrontation with their new partner, not only is it embarrassing, but it is going to make you look petty and jealous (oh, and you could get hurt too). You may also be facing incarceration if things get bad enough. Suffice it to say that you will never get another chance with the love of your life after that.
You’ve been through days of arguing, stress, anxiety and you’re at your wit’s end. Your ex wants nothing to do with you and refuses to tell you why they dumped you. In a rage, you let them have it verbally. I mean, really no-holds barred, you spew the most vile contempt that even ends up shocking you. Dumbfounded, your ex looks as though they have been physically hit. There is no coming back from this.
You’ve tried everything you can think of to make this right, but your ex is not budging. Still, you continue to try and contact them every hour on the hour. Eventually, they decide to get a restraining order against you as a last resort. You’re stunned that they felt they needed to go to those lengths. After all, you’re just trying to fix a situation, right? If you’re smart, you’ll obey the order. If you’re not, then you may be going to jail. Yes, it does happen to regular people like yourself.
You confront them in front of their friends or family. Now, this is dangerous because these people are going to feel compelled to stick up for your ex. Unless you get a grip on your temper, this is most certainly going to end badly.
You physically assault your ex. This is inexcusable. If your temper escalates to this level, then you should seek help. Prepare to go to jail if it happens. Prepare to be shunned by your friends and family. And expect that your ex will never want to be in the same room with you ever again.
Losing your temper is preventable. After all, it takes a while to get to that point and there are a lot of escape routes along the way. You have to recognize when it’s getting serious and have the self-control to back off. If you don’t, forget about ever getting your ex back. In fact, you’ll be lucky if they’ll ever talk to you again.