After a breakup, it’s a fact that you can’t force your ex to do anything they don’t want to do. You can’t force them to think a certain way or do things that are going to result in getting the relationship back. Yet, many of us miss this important point, and by attempting to force them into a certain way of thinking, we end up alienating ourselves even further.

Attempting to talk your ex back into your life is a gut reaction to the events that are going on around you. In the most basic terms, you lost something and now you’re trying to get it back using the most rudimentary way possible. Not much thought is given to your methods, you simply need to fix the situation and make the hurt stop. Operating like this is not going to result in a favorable outcome. Read the rest of this entry

Have things really hit rock bottom? Are you making all the wrong moves? Do you feel as though your ex has had enough of your games? Have they stopped taking your calls? Can you feel your relationship slipping through your fingers, despite your best efforts?

As bad as things may be at the moment, what you need to do is start putting things in perspective. Yes, the situation is extremely difficult right now and you may feel distraught, but what you are feeling is something that just about every adult will go through at some point in their life. What you are feeling is normal and it’s not something you should be beating yourself up over. Read the rest of this entry

If you are determined to get your ex back and you’re not having much success, have you ever thought that you might be over complicating things?

In your urgency to get your ex back, there is a good chance that you are trying a little too hard. Sometimes the situation calls for a simpler approach.

There are essentially two things you can do after a breakup: you can take the high road and come to terms with the situation, or you can go off on a tangent, allow your emotions to get the best of you, and start harassing your ex with phone calls and messages.

Getting your ex back is going to mean that you can’t give in to your emotions and make the same mistakes that most other people do. Simply throwing yourself at them and resorting to desperate behavior is not going to work. Go against the grain and don’t behave like to typical scorned lover – they will definitely take notice.

And, after all, that is what you want at this point.

Throw your ex for a loop and simply tell them that you accept the split and wish them the best. Make sure that you remain composed and that they know there are no hard feelings. The last thing you want at the moment is to let them see you emotional.

This could be hard to pull off convincingly, since there is no doubt that you are experiencing some very real emotional pain at the moment. In order to remain cool and not let your emotions show, simply think of them as a friend and treat them as such. This means that you need to avoid any behavior that might be interpreted as desperate. One of the best ways to do that is to think back of what life was like in the beginning of the relationship and simply get in that mode once more – carefree and no strings attached. The key here is to always be smiling and upbeat, treat them with respect and dignity, and never get too serious.

Also, if you can turn on the charm, all the better. There is no doubt that this is going to floor them and it is the last thing they are going to expect. Go off the beaten path and refuse to get sucked into the usual trap where you leave yourself no options. Be unpredictable.

If you are able to pull this off convincingly, you may notice that it won’t be long before your ex starts changing their tune. In fact, you will almost immediately be stirring up feelings of attraction and desire again.