Okay, so what do I mean by renting space in your ex’s head? Well, simply put, you want to have them thinking about you after the breakup. In fact, you want them to obsess about you even if they don’t want to acknowledge that they are obsessing about you. In order to do this, you are going to have to be very cool and calm about things in the aftermath of the breakup. Needless to say, confidence is going to play a huge role.

If you are able to make your ex think about you without making it look like you are trying, you are going to be off to a good start. If they think, even for a second, that you are intentionally doing things to manipulate the situation, then you are going to fail.

One thing you do not want to do is underestimate your former partner’s ability to see through you. This is possibly one of the biggest mistakes people make after a breakup. The bottom line is that you have to almost believe it yourself if you want to convince them that it is the real deal.

One example of this is when you simply start doing your own thing and you act as though you are perfectly fine. This is an incredibly powerful tactic for many reasons, but it is only effective if you are able to convince your ex that you are really acting genuine. If they suspect that it is all act for their benefit, you are not going to go far – in fact, you are going to damage your credibility with them permanently.

Now, one problem people have with acting like they don’t care is that they don’t want their ex to think that they don’t care. Can you see where the problem lies? You are so worried about offending your ex and “losing them” for good, you fail to do the one thing that is going to create the interest and attraction that you need to get your relationship back. That one thing is to take away their power over you by simply getting on with your life and making it look as genuine as possible.

Oftentimes, it is not what you say that makes a bigger impact, it is what you don’t say. If you concentrate on your own life, you are going to steal back some of that power you gave up right after the split. If you make it look like it is no big deal, you are going to get their attention – that is simple human nature. They are going to be wondering why you are not phoning and texting. They are going to wonder why you aren’t begging them to come back. They are going to wonder what they are doing wrong. And that, my friend, is going to put you in the driver’s seat. They are going to be obsessed with you – not the other way around. In short, you are going to be renting space in their head.

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One of the best things you can do after a breakup is to do nothing at all. That is something that most people just don’t get and it is the main reason that they wind up in trouble. While this advice may seem counter-intuitive, you are going to have to fight those urges you have to contact your ex and focus on something else instead.

It is our nature to want to do something to fix a problem. If we do nothing, the problem does not get fixed – at least that is what we have been taught. After a breakup, we have an overwhelming urge to fix the problem.

But that is where you are going to run into trouble. You see, nothing you can say right now is going to make things better – there are no words you can say that will improve your situation, short term. Though you may be surprised to hear that, the sooner you accept it, the better off you are going to be. In fact, the only thing you are going to do by maintaining contact with your ex is show them how desperate you are. This is going to lead to them becoming even more distant and, as a result, you are going to become more desperate. You see how this can turn into a vicious circle? Maybe you have experienced this first hand.

If you find yourself in a situation like this right now, it is not too late to turn things around. Even if your ex is avoiding you and not talking, you can start to make changes that are going to improve your situation drastically. You can start by getting a little power back.

Yes, whether you realize it or not, you are at the losing end of a psychological game. Your ex is making all the decisions and you are reacting to everything they decide. That is not a good spot to be in and it is due to the fact that you have given away all your power. You have no advantage.

Obviously, one of the first things you are going to want to do is get some of that power back. You can do this by cutting off contact for a while. Nothing is going to work as fast as this and your ex is quickly going to realize that something is up. If you have been sending text messages and phoning them every hour on the hour and it suddenly stops, they are going to notice.

It is not necessary to keep this up for too long, but you also don’t want to get back to the situation you are in now. By breaking off contact, you are setting a new path and one that you need need to maintain. It is not going to do you any good if you break off contact with your ex and then go right back to the way things were. If you do that, it is going to look phoney and you are going to lose some credibility with them. Once you decide to go down this path, you have to keep it up.

On the other hand, you don’t want to overdo it. If you wait too long to establish contact again, you run the risk of your ex getting over you. Time has a way of easing the pain and that is not what you want. You do not want your ex to forget about you.

Instead, you should contact them to see how they are doing. Keep it very light and do not mention how much you love them or that you still miss them. You have to play it cool and keep any meetings short. Remember that you are going to have to start from scratch and the thing you have to do is exude confidence. You are going to have to be the opposite of someone who is insecure and needy and can’t think of anything better than to harass an ex with phone calls.

If you can pull this off, you are going to notice a different person. You are going to see your ex warming up to you and don’t be surprised if they start contacting you instead. That is simple human psychology and it works just about every time.

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Do you feel as though your life is never going to be the same because your ex partner decided to call it quits? Do you feel as though there is a huge hole that will never be filled? Has all the joy in your life been replaced by hopelessness and despair? Well, as bad as that sounds, you have a huge opportunity to make things right again and get them back for good.

There are two things you have to do right now: you have to get rid of the worst of your emotions, and you have to stop any negative behavior before it causes too much damage. Lets talk about each one. Read the rest of this entry

You have just been told that it is over by your partner and you are left scrambling, trying to pick up the pieces – can life get any worse?

At this point in the breakup, it is natural to want to make the pain stop, plain and simple. In fact, almost everyone goes through this in the beginning and they are willing to do whatever it takes to feel better again. Read the rest of this entry

There is no doubt that you are facing an uphill battle when it comes to getting your ex back – and one of the worst things you have to face is the fact that he/she is not listening to you. If they are not listening to you, you don’t stand much of a chance of getting them back.

So, why aren’t they listening to you? Well, there is a good chance that they don’t want to talk about getting back together and just assume that this is what you are trying to do. Read the rest of this entry

You have just split up with the love of your life and you are hurting like nothing you’ve ever experienced before. What do you do? Is there any way to make them listen to you and re-consider? Well, while there is no magic bullet, there are steps you can take that are going to greatly increase your odds. These are steps that most of us miss when we are in midst of the incredible anguish of a breakup. We aren’t thinking clearly and, instead, make some really bad choices (actually, the exact opposite of what we should be doing).

The key to getting started on the right track is to recognize that you are running on almost pure emotion. That is not going to do anything for you, except make the situation even more tense. Remember that most of us don’t think clearly when we are listening to our emotions. We simply want the hurting to stop and will do anything to make it happen. Read the rest of this entry

If you are in the position where you are asking the question, “can I get my ex back”  then you may be in for a little disappointment. No one is going to be able to answer that question with any degree of certainty, except for your ex – and he/she is not going to tell you straight out.

Life after a breakup is full of uncertainties, and getting your ex back is one thing that is not going to be answered any time soon.

One thing that is certain: if you have ended things in a bad way, then I wouldn’t be holding your breath for a reconciliation any time soon. If you have shown him/her a less desirable side of you, then you may be in for a long road back. The good news is that you still have an excellent chance at making things right, even if you screwed up in a major way. Read the rest of this entry

By Robert Ferris

If you are going though a tough time with a breakup at the moment, one thing you may want to keep in mind is that the days following the split are the most critical. It is during this period that you are going to make or break it with your ex. You need to say and do the right things from the beginning or you are going to end up like 90% of jilted lovers – always one step behind your ex, reacting to whatever they decide – to their every whim. Read the rest of this entry

There is no doubt that if you have just been dumped, you are going through your own personal crisis at the moment. In fact, you may be going a little crazy at the thought of losing your ex. Perhaps the only thing that is keeping you going at the moment is the fact that the breakup may only be temporary.

Are you willing to do just about anything to get them back? Read the rest of this entry

Should you really try talking to your ex after a breakup? Isn’t that one of the worst things you could be doing at the moment? Well, yes, for most people, staying in contact with your ex after they dumped you can cause irreparable damage to your relationship (or whatever is left of it), but if you approach it a certain way, you can set the stage for a reconciliation in the coming weeks. Of course, you can’t do it like 99% of the people do. Read the rest of this entry