If you’ve been with your partner for any length of time, it can be incredibly hard to deal with a breakup. As you are forced to cope with a completely new routine without your ex. Your life is turned upside down and you may sometimes feel that even getting out of bed in the morning is barely worth it. The longer you have been with your ex, the longer it is going to take to get used to this new routine.
All this is normal, however. It is natural to feel as though life will never be the same and picking up and continuing on with things just seems surreal. Let’s face it: you have been together for a long time and you are going to miss that life. In most cases, it is this sense of loss that is the hardest thing to get over.
Painful memories surround you at a time like this and everything you look at reminds you of your ex and the good times you had as a couple. Even doing something as simple as watching TV can bring back memories of the shows that you both watched and the movies you enjoyed cuddled up together.
Going out probably isn’t going to be much better as you are reminded of that restaurant around the corner where you had brunch every Sunday morning, the grocery store where you did your shopping on Thursday nights, and the bookstore where you both loved to browse on a Saturday afternoon.
And lets not forget the friends that you both shared. Things are going to be a lot different now that you are on your own. Some will stay loyal to you, others will distance themselves from you, and others will attempt to remain neutral.
As a result of all this, we sometimes have a tendency to over-compensate and make changes in our lives that are a little drastic. In a way, we are trying to adapt to the changes that are happening in which we have no control over. We are trying to make the transformation as painless as possible. For example: you may stop frequenting places that you used to go to as a couple – either because you don’t want to run into your ex, or it is simply too painful.
In fact, some people may go to extremes and even start sleeping in another room or buying another bed because the memories are too painful. You just have to remember that these feelings are temporary and that any decision you make now is going to stay with you long after the pain of the breakup is over.
The best thing you can do at the moment is to try living your life as you did before and only make the changes that you feel you have to. The reality is that you only have to cope with this for a short time. In a matter of weeks, you are going to start feeling better and realize that things are going to be just fine. Sure, you are going to miss things about the relationship, but you are going to have more relationships in the future – and some could even make this one pale in comparison.
Yes, I know it is hard to imagine a life without your ex, but it will happen.
Now, if you are convinced that this is truly the person you are meant to be with, then you have your work cut out for you. There is no guarantee that they are even going to want anything to do with you after the breakup – and that can be devastating for anyone who knows that they are on the brink of losing the love of their life for good.
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