With all the emotional turmoil you are going through at the moment, one thing that you may not have done is really stop and think about what led up to the breakup. Why did your ex dump you? It is easy to think that they are going out of their way to make you suffer, but if you stop to think about it, people don’t act like that without a good reason. There has to be a logical explanation for all of this.
Even if your ex found someone else (and that is just about as bad as it gets), there is going to be an underlying reason for it. It doesn’t have to be something you did recently, or even one single act that lead to this – it could be a combination of things that finally lead your ex to believe that the only solution was to dump you.
In fact, it may not be anything you did at all. Your ex may have left you because of who they are, and not something you did – or anything that you could have prevented. But, even if that happens, at least you are going to know and things will make sense. You won’t feel as though they are abusing you for the fun of it (or for no reason at all) and you’ll understand that they may have simply done it for their own selfish reasons.
Now, you may not have to go searching for the reason. In fact, there is a very good chance that you already know the reason – you simply have to stop, put your emotions in check, and really think about the events leading up to the split. If you can do this, you may find that there is a very good reason they left. It may not be the reason you hoped for, but at least you’ll know.
There is a good chance that once you know what sparked all this, you’ll be able to take steps to make it better. Even if your ex says it’s over, nothing is over until you have at least tried.
For now, the best thing you can do is give them some space. The alternative is that you are going to complicate the situation and maybe even tick them off if you are right in their face. Though it may seem like you have no chance, things may be completely different when you have both had a chance to calm down a little and let those emotions subside.
In the meantime, work on things that you can improve. If the reason for the breakup was something that you did, then you need to fix that. You are going to have to show them that you have changed if you ever want another chance at getting them back.
If the reason for them leaving has nothing to do with you at all (if they found someone else, for example) then the only thing you can do is accept what fate threw at you and decide if you are going to take them back – given another chance.
In time, you may even find that you want to go your own way – even if you don’t want to consider that option at the moment. Just remember that time has a way of making everything better.
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