In the midst of all the pain and anguish you are feeling at the moment, there is one thing you have to keep in mind: your ex is taking note of how you’re handling things. If you’re sulking, feeling sorry for yourself, and walking around with a long face, you’re not doing yourself any favors. And if you think they don’t notice this – guess again.
Obviously, you don’t want to put yourself in a negative light, yet this is exactly what you are doing. But don’t feel bad, it is something that most of us do. The good thing is that if you can get control of your feelings, you have an excellent chance of getting your ex back.
A funny thing happens when you go from looking depressed and anxious, to appearing happy and carefree. Your ex is fully expecting you to be devastated – once that doesn’t happen, it’s going to send them for a loop. Furthermore, it’s going to give you some power. Psychological power is exactly what you’ve been missing up until this point. Your ex has held all the cards and you’ve been on the defensive since they dumped you. Now, it’s as if the rug has been pulled out from under them and they lost the advantage they had over you. As a result, they may have a complete change of heart. In fact, don’t be surprised if they suddenly warm up to you. This is true in almost every case.
Of course, the problem is that you may not genuinely feel happy. In fact, there’s a good chance that if you want this to work, you’re going to have to do a bit of acting.
The first thing you need to do is make sure that whenever your ex sees you, you are in a good mood. From this moment on, never let them see you with anything less than a smile on your face. Don’t overdo it, just try not to think about the relationship or how much you miss them when you’re in their presence. If you do this, your emotions will come through in your physical expression. You may not realize how evident this really is.
If you really want to succeed here, make sure that they see you with other people enjoying yourself. Get out there and make some new friends if you have to. It is necessary to socialize as much as possible at this point because you can appear as happy and carefree as you want, but if you are all alone, it really won’t have the same impact.
Above all, make sure that you don’t overdo it. It has to appear genuine and not something that you contrived (even though you did). If your ex thinks that this is all being staged for their benefit, it could make you look a little petty and immature.