There is no doubt that if you have just been dumped, you are going through your own personal crisis at the moment. In fact, you may be going a little crazy at the thought of losing your ex. Perhaps the only thing that is keeping you going at the moment is the fact that the breakup may only be temporary.
Are you willing to do just about anything to get them back?
Well, it’s important that you start by putting things in perspective. The first thing you should be doing at the moment is making it a point not to take it so hard. Easier said than done, of course, but it is crucial that you get in the right frame of mind.
It isn’t your fault that the relationship ended – you are simply a victim of circumstances (unless you’ve done something despicable – in which case, what you are about to read probably won’t apply to you).
So, now that you’re feeling a whole lot better about yourself, it is time for the next step, which is putting things in perspective. You have to believe that there is going to be an opportunity to get back together in the future. Unless you actually believe you have a chance, it’s going to be difficult to make any progress.
Knowing that there is going to be reconciliation will make you act less desperate and that is always a good thing as desperation is the number one relationship killer, bar none. So, even if you aren’t able to see your ex at the moment, it is important that you have faith.
During this time, you also have to act as though you will be perfectly fine with the breakup. You have to actually show your ex that you are confident enough with your life to give them some space and concentrate on other things.
Once they see this, they are going to feel as though they have lost control of you. This is probably going to result in them taking a more humble approach. In fact, don’t be surprised if they suddenly start calling and texting you instead of the other way around. Now, that is where you want to be and it certainly is better than following your ex around reacting to everything they do. Finally, you’re in the driver’s seat.