Getting dumped is something that most adults go through at least once in their life. If you date, it is almost certain that you are going to be faced with losing a girlfriend at some point. Though it is something that most of us dread, the way you handle things in the days after the split will determine your fate.
Here are 5 things you are going to want to keep in mind in order to get your girlfriend back:
The first thing you need to do is acknowledge the fact that the breakup happened. As silly as this sounds, you would be surprised at the amount of guys that simply don’t acknowledge that she has ended it. The sooner you accept what has happened, the sooner you can move on formulating a plan to get her back. Hanging on to something that is not there any longer is not the way to go and is only going to make it that much harder.
Next, you have to realize that this is taking a toll on you emotionally. You are going to have to be confident, and if you have this wearing you down, it is going to be hard to do that. Constant rejection is not a good thing for your ego, so you are better off making yourself scarce at a time like this. If you are phoning and texting her and getting no response, you are losing the last bit of self-esteem and dignity that you have.
Try to exercise patience. People who continue to phone and message their ex in a desperate attempt to get them to reconsider, or to find out the “real” reason they left, are seriously out of options and grasping at straws. If the best thing you can think of right now is to harass your ex, then you have a lot to learn about relationships and breakups. One of the main reasons you are doing what you are doing at the moment is that you are not exercising patience. If you have no patience, you are going to go off half cocked and ruin everything. Patience takes discipline and one of the best ways to prove to yourself that you have what it takes is to avoid contacting your ex-girlfriend.
Avoid contact for now, but don’t allow negative emotions to take over. It is one thing to avoid your ex right after a breakup, but something else entirely to treat them like dirt on your shoe. Sure, she hurt you and you may feel like telling her exactly what you think of her, but what is that really going to buy you in the long run? It takes a bigger man to tell her that you accept the breakup and move on. Getting into a petty argument and saying things that you don’t mean is not going to do anything for you in the long run. Well, not unless you want to keep her away for good. Think about what you say before you say it, because once it’s out, it’s out.
Know when the time is right to re-establish contact again. You don’t want to rush in before she has had a chance to think about things and to start missing you again, but you also don’t want to wait too long. Time has a way of easing the pain and making one forget about the intimacy and love you felt for each other. If you wait too long, it is going to be easier for her to give you up for good. Generally speaking, a few weeks is a good time period. Send her an email just to say hi and to see how she is doing. The key here is to simply send one message and wait for a reply. Don’t start sending more messages if you don’t hear back from her right away because there could be a very good reason why she didn’t respond right away – none of which have anything to do with her ignoring you.
If you are desperate to get your girlfriend back, take a second and think about what you are doing before you make a decision that is going to do real harm in the future. All it takes are a few nasty words to make her think twice about getting back with you. Best of luck.