If you’re scrambling right now, trying to figure out what to do after your girlfriend dumped you, it may be some consolation to know that you’re not alone. Just about every guy at some point goes through this exact thing.
It can definitely be a crazy time. Your mind is racing, trying to think of ways to get her back. Hatching schemes and thinking way, way outside the box. In fact, so far outside the box that your solutions almost seem a little crazy to anyone looking from the outside in. However, in your state of mind, they seem quite reasonable.
One such scheme maybe the notion to make your ex jealous. In fact, that’s one of the first things that people think about immediately after getting dumped. It just seems to be the default solution to your problems.
Now I’m not saying that making her jealous is not going to work, but there is a right way and a wrong way of doing this. At the very least, you have a very good chance of regaining some of that psychological power back. And that’s always a good thing.
Using jealousy does not come without risk. If you decide to go down this road, there’s the very real possibility that you can be found out. When I say found out, I’m talking about the very real possibility that she may find out that this is all for her benefit. If she finds out that you’re simply trying to make her jealous and that is your primary goal, you’re pretty much finished.
Once you embark on the jealousy solution, there’s no turning back.
One other important thing that you have to remember is the fact that there’s going to be another person involved. How are you going to handle this? Have you considered her feelings? Are you not simply going to be using her to get your ex back? Are you really prepared to use someone like this?
Now having said all that, it may turn out that you really don’t have to date anyone at all. In fact, it may be better that you leave this up to her imagination. If you paraded a new person in front of her, it’s going to look too obvious.
It’s really going to call for a much more subtle approach. Don’t be too obvious. Don’t make it look like you want her to see you with someone else.
A much more effective way of doing this is to very discreetly become friends with someone of the opposite sex. Don’t make it look like you’re boyfriend girlfriend. Simply hang out with this person from a strictly social aspect. It’s a lot better if there are more people around too. The best approach here is to let her think whatever she wants in her own mind. The more it seems forced, the more obvious it’s going to look.
So the first thing you would want to do right now is to expand your social contacts, expand your circle of friends, get into the habit of socializing more, and don’t be afraid to make some more female friends.
The key to using jealousy as a tactic to get your ex back is to make it look like you’re not trying.