Okay, it’s been a few days and you are still missing your ex-boyfriend like crazy, but you’re not sure what moves you should be making next. Well, the first thing you should be training yourself to say is that you want him back, but you don’t necessarily need him back.
It’s important that you develop that way of thinking if you ever want another chance at getting him back. This gives you a little more power and will ensure that you are not approaching the situation simply hoping for the best and reacting to whatever your boyfriend says and does.
By the way: he wants you to be on the defensive – he wants the upper hand. Approach this from a different perspective and you end up throwing a wrench into his plans (and that isn’t necessarily a bad thing).
How to Get Your Boyfriend Back
It’s important that you understand that humans will always want what they can’t have (this goes for males as well as females). In fact, there is a good chance that even before he ended it, he may have been taking you for granted. As he became more and more distant and disinterested, you kept trying to please him. This is actually quite common in relationships and is one of the main reasons that one partner may either cheat, or break it off. Things are simply too easy. There is no challenge anymore.
This type of behavior only has one cure, and that is to change to way you deal with your ex. Stop being subservient to him. Stop reacting to everything he says and does. Make sure that you don’t keep phoning or texting him, and whatever you do, make sure that you don’t show him how bad you want him back. This means that you should never become emotional in front of him or act in a desperate manner.
You should continue to be civil to him, but refrain from getting personal, being overly friendly, or acting desperate. It’s okay to be friendly, even charming, but keep him at an emotional distance for the time being.
If you are able to do this, there is a good chance that he’ll start wondering what is going on. He will no longer have you there at his beck and call and there will be a sudden feeling of loss. He will have lost the person who used to be there for him, the one he never really acknowledged and always took for granted. As they say: You don’t know what you’ve got till it’s gone.
To further emphasize your point, make sure you get out there with your friends and start enjoying life a little. In fact, you may even want to consider having a few innocent dates. The point is – you need to show him that his hold over you is gone. You need to show him that you have moved on and you are doing okay.
This is how to get your boyfriend back.
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