Is Your Ex Really Worth It?
I know, I know, there is nothing in this world right now that would compare to the bliss of getting your ex back. I know, because I’ve been there myself.
We all have.
In fact, you’ve likely been down this road in the past at least once – maybe several times.
And if you have, you know that what you’re feeling right now is not accurate. Your judgment is clouded by emotion and you truly believe your ex is the only thing in the world that matters.
In time, you’ll begin to see things for what they really are and maybe even wonder what the fuss was all about.
But for now, you have your ex on a pedestal so high that nothing can touch him/her. You’re blind to their faults and can only see them as perfect.
No sense in fighting this because you are never going to convince yourself otherwise.
However, over time (and we all know this), these feelings are going to diminish. You are going to have an opportunity to view things from a different perspective. You’ll soon realize that your ex is not the person you made them out to be all those months ago. They are far from perfect and likely aren’t even right for you at this point in your life.
You are going to see them for who they really are – the good and the bad.
Personally, I can tell you that I have never maintained that “up on a pedestal” outlook for any more than a few weeks after a breakup. But everyone is different and not one relationship is going to be the same as another. It takes a few weeks (sometimes months), but you’ll always return to a more realistic way of looking at things.
But it won’t feel like it at the time.
And here is the clincher. If it were possible to see things for what they really are shortly after the breakup, you would save yourself a lot of pain and anguish.
Sigh… but it just doesn’t happen that way unfortunately.
The main thing is that after you are done suffering, you are going to be rewarded. Your emotions are going to calm down. You will get some confidence back. You will start feeling a whole lot better. And most importantly, you are going to see your ex for what they really are, not for how you imagine them to be.
There have been a few times where I’ve actually wanted to kick my own ass for being such a pussy. Why do we temporarily lose our mind and, shortly thereafter, our self-esteem in the aftermath of a breakup?
One of the mysteries of life, I suppose.
Think back to all the times you thought your world would come crashing down around you, or that you couldn’t see any way to continue after a breakup. How do you feel about it now?
I thought so.
Now, the good thing about finally getting rid of those rose-colored glasses is that you are able to evaluate your situation. Take some time and really think about what you want.
Is your ex really the be all and end all you thought they were? Are you ashamed at the way you idolized them for no other reason than the fact that you couldn’t have them?
Don’t worry if you did – it’s human nature.
The main thing is that you can now look at things objectively and not be afraid to say no if you don’t think it’s going to work out. You can now look at your ex and, for the first time in a long time, you’ll be able to make a decision that isn’t based on pure emotion.
Honestly, don’t be surprised if you decide to pass.
I know it may seem inconceivable right now, but trust me, there’s a good chance that the person you worshiped only a few short months ago comes up a little short.
To seal the deal, the only thing you’re going to be thinking about is how badly they treated you during the whole ordeal. Even if you decide to ignore it, deep down, there is going to be some resentment on your part.
Certainly a lot to think about.