While it may be tempting to try and make your ex jealous or play other similar mind games after a breakup, you should know that it is not likely to end well and is going to make things a whole lot worse. I know it can be tempting to want to punish your ex and make them feel bad, but what you may not realize is that it is going to be obvious to them what you are doing and any credibility you have is going to be put in jeopardy.
You don’t suddenly start acting a certain way for no reason, and anything outside of your normal behavior is going to seem suspicious.
Here are a few things that simply won’t work, yet people continue to do them:
Jealousy – Yep, making your ex jealous is one of the oldest tricks in the book, yet it is something that most of us are guilty of. The thought of having someone else to show off is incredibly tempting, but what you don’t see is how obvious it makes you look. No one is going to buy this and the only thing you are going to succeed in doing is making yourself look insecure. No one wants to be with someone like that.
You also have to think about the person you are using to make your ex jealous. Yep, that’s right, you are using them because you probably have no intention of starting a relationship with this person. You don’t know what they are thinking of while all this is going on. If you are pretending to have a serious relationship, there is a very good chance that they are going to be thinking the same thing. Something to keep in mind if you are guilty of doing this.
Faking Anger – Yeah, they hurt you, now you are going to let them have it by ignoring them and/or telling them exactly what you think of them. That’ll show em. Uh, no, not really. In fact, acting like that is juvenile and makes you look shallow. Not only that, but it has been proven that this kind of anti-social behavior only ends up hurting you. No one cares if you are throwing a hissy fit and ignoring everyone around you, least of all your ex. The longer you do this, the worse you are making things.
Pretending That Everything is Fine – You have been dumped. That is something that is going to cause emotional distress. So why are you going around as though nothing has happened? Why are you getting on with your life, laughing and carrying on as though you haven’t a care in the world? It is normal to be subdued and maybe a little depressed after you have been dumped – don’t be afraid to show your real mood. If you are going around as though everything is okay, people are going to assume that you are going through some kind of breakdown or you are faking it. Unfortunately, most are going to know that it is all an act – including your ex.
Playing mind games is any kind of behavior that is meant to influence your ex in some way. Whether it be feeling sorry for you or feeling sad that they made the mistake of dumping you, you are trying to instill feelings of guilt and remorse. You want them to feel bad. The problem is, your tactics suck and everyone but you can see through them. Eventually, you are going to have to come clean and it is going to be more difficult than if you did nothing at all.
Don’t underestimate your ex and don’t insult their intelligence. Mind games always end in disaster, whether it be in a current relationship or one that has already ended.
Or learn the magic text messages that will have them crawling back in no time!