If you are prone to depression, then life after a breakup can be traumatic. Sure, everyone goes through a period of intense emotions and anxiety after being dumped, but for someone who is susceptible to depression, it can be unmanageable.
Oftentimes, all it takes is a trigger of some sort to send a person into the depths of despair and to keep them there. How much worse does it get than losing the love of your life?
If you suffer from depression and you’re going through a breakup right now, then you need to take steps to ensure that things don’t get any worse.
As long as you keep in contact with your ex, there is the potential for conflict. That’s the last things you need right now, because every negative incident is going to be replayed in your head a hundred times over in the next few weeks. Why would you add fuel to the fire?
The sooner you eliminate yourself from the picture, the better. Sure, it isn’t going to make this horrible situation disappear, but at least you’ll be able to take your mind off things. Well, try anyway.
Speaking of keeping your mind off things – The first thing you are going to want to do after breaking free of your ex is to find a distraction that works. While you may want to just be alone, you should resist this with every fiber of your being. Okay, a little dramatic, but you get the idea.
Isolating yourself means being alone with your thoughts. In your state, that can mean trouble because there is a good chance that you are going to blow things out of proportion and be unable to break free from thinking obsessively. A continuous mental loop that you torture yourself with over and over.
Who is my ex with? Why did they dump me? What’s wrong with me? Am I ugly? Am I unlovable? Was he/she cheating on me? If so, with who?
This is why you don’t want to be alone right now. Thoughts like this only serve to make you feel inadequate and unworthy. Anyone suffering from depression shouldn’t be exposed to that sort of thing.
Instead, force yourself to get out. Don’t take no for an answer. And I don’t mean out by yourself, I mean find people to be with. Don’t worry about imposing on your friends. They are going to be willing to help in any way they can because they have most likely heard about the breakup.
My main concern has always been that I don’t want to bring everyone down with my bad mood, but it really doesn’t work that way. People want to help.
To avoid slipping into a deeper depression, start talking about how you feel to someone you can trust. Someone who cares about you. Get it off your chest. Talk about the obsessive thoughts you have and ask for their input. You need an outside opinion so you can break out of the mental loop you’ve been in. Once you do that, you’ll no doubt discover that your thinking is flawed and you’re worrying needlessly. If you remain alone, there is no one to tell you otherwise.
Once you are over the initial breakup, don’t slip backwards into depression. Get lots of sleep, eat well, be as social as you possibly can, and exercise as much as you can. If need be, get some professional help. There is no shame in needing help.
Transform your life in the coming months. This may be a blessing in disguise, it’s just that you don’t see it yet.