Now, here is something that you may not have thought about. And it isn’t something that you would think we’d be talking about on a site on how to get your ex back. However, it is a big part of the picture if you intend on getting back together at some point.
I know what you’re thinking. “What is there to really think about?”
And under normal circumstances I would say there really isn’t anything to think about if you’ve been pining for your ex. After all, isn’t that what you hoped and dreamed would happen after they dumped you way back when? How many times have you dreamed about what it would be like?
And now you get your chance…
But hold on a second… Should you really go stumbling forward without any thought at all?
Think back to the breakup. You were devastated. Your ex was treating you like garbage. You couldn’t stop contacting them and things went from bad to worse. At one point, you could feel their contempt for you even through text messages and email. However, even with all that, you would have taken them back in a heartbeat. It was the only thing you wanted – the only thing you lived for.
You were hurting bad. With your whole life on hold, as you hoped beyond hope that something would give – that your ex would change their mind. But it wasn’t meant to be. They stood tough as your life was left in shambles.
Now, you’re in a different frame of mind – a different place. It’s been months and you don’t think about your ex much these days. All that emotion was a little silly now that you think of it. Your life is good and you’re getting on with things.
Suddenly, out of the blue, you get a text from your ex. Innocent enough, though highly unusual. They want to meet for coffee and talk. Hmm. You’re a little skeptical, but you agree.
You’re greeted by a very friendly ex. Talkative, and smiling, as if nothing ever happened. They ask how things are going and what you’re up to. No one talks about the breakup because it’s uncomfortable for you and a little embarrassing for your ex. Reading between the lines though, you get a feeling that they are sorry for the whole mess.
This meeting could really turn into something more, you think. In fact, you’re sure that it could because of all the signals your ex is giving.
But be careful.
Sure, a few months back, you would have done anything in the world to sit with your ex and have such a lovely conversation. You were obsessed with it, actually.
But now, things are different. You’ve moved on from that intensely emotional state and, frankly, you could take it or leave it at this point.
You worked hard to earn that. You went through hell and back to get to where you are. You had to pick up the pieces of your shattered life all on your own.
And now your ex is back like nothing happened?
If you’re smart, you won’t have anything to do with them just on principle. How dare they? It’s as if they’re treating the weeks and months of stress and anguish you endured as no big thing.
Think back to the day you got dumped. How they hung you out to dry. How they almost enjoyed your pain – or at least, that’s the way it felt. Wow…
Now that you have your life back, are you really going to take another chance? Are you going to stand up for yourself or are you going to give them a free pass to come back? How can you forget about everything that’s happened?
And let’s not forget other people. Have either of you been with anyone else since the breakup? Maybe that’s why they left you in the first place. Certainly, this complicates things.
If your ex left you for someone else, you are really going to have to love them to consider rekindling the romance. Trust is going to be a huge thing here. Most people aren’t able to do it.
Even if you both met other people after the breakup – Can you really get over that? Someone has been with the love of your life and now you’re going back? Hard to take for some.
Only you can decide if it’s right for you. Don’t listen to other people, just do what you feel is best. And most importantly, don’t be afraid to push back when it comes to your ex. I know they are used to getting what they want, but they no longer have any power over you.
That, in itself, is an amazing feeling!