Feeling a little angry after your ex called it quits? Wondering how they could do that to you after all these years? You don’t deserve to be treated like that, considering what you’ve done for them. Did they ever really love you?
Well, it’s to be expected. You feel betrayed and mistreated and it hurts. And once you’re over feeling sorry for yourself, there is a good chance you are going to start feeling a little angry. Relax, it’s normal.
However, if you are prone to anger in general, this may be just the thing to send you over the edge. What may seem like a difficult situation for an average person, turns into something that could quickly escalate out of control if you’re not careful.
There is a price to be paid for your anger. While it isn’t always going to be a big deal, you can do things and say things in anger that just can’t be taken back. When it comes to your ex, it’s easy to lose your temper and say things you don’t mean (especially if you’re the one who has been dumped).
In some cases, you may even get into a physical confrontation with your ex’s new partner – yikes!
This can have long lasting and far reaching implications.
In fact, you can end any chance of ever getting your ex back with nothing more than a few choice words. Once said, you are never going to change things, no matter how much apologizing you do.
If you have a bad temper, the first thing you have to do is acknowledge that fact. Accept that you have a short fuse and that you shouldn’t be dealing with your ex immediately after the breakup. If you feel like your temper is about to flare up, do whatever it takes to remove yourself from the situation right away.
Don’t trust that you aren’t going to lose your cool.
Let’s say you arrange to meet your ex just after the breakup. You keep telling yourself that you have things well in control and that you can contain your anger. However, all it’s going to take is one thing to set you off. You know it deep down…
So, why would you risk it? Do you not want your ex back? If so, what are you willing to do to make that happen?
If you can find the courage to admit you have a problem and then take steps so that it won’t kill your chances, then you are going to be handling the situation like a mature adult. You are going to be giving yourself every opportunity to turn this around. And don’t you deserve that?
As far as your temper goes, well that is something you can work on. Get help – there’s no shame in that. In some major cities, there are support groups that you can join to help you get control of your anger. Anger management classes are all over the place. If need be, book some time with a good therapist.
Failing that, find a good book on anger management and start reading. While not as good as a support group, a book can work wonders.
Why bother with all this? Well, even if you get your ex back now, you still have anger issues. And it’s just a matter of time before things boil over again. Imagine being given a second chance (against all odds), and then throwing that away. It would be a shame.