Though you may be convinced there is nothing left in your life, you need to put things in perspective. It may not feel like it now, but your relationship is only one small part of the big picture. Yes, I said a small part…
If you’re in the middle of a breakup, you may not care about other aspects of your life – and that’s understandable. But remember that life does carry on and, even if you don’t get your ex back, you are going to have to carry on, regardless.
While it may be tough to get on with things like going to work or school, attending social events, or keeping important appointments, it’s critical that you do. Where are you going to be if you stop going to work, stop paying bills, etc?
Time is the great healer and you are going to see in the not too distant future that your current relationship is not that big a deal. I know, that sounds completely crazy right now, but other relationships are going to come your way if you don’t get your ex back. Possibly many, many more in your lifetime. But if you don’t have a job, a place to live, or money, then who are you going to attract?
The higher your social status, the more likely you are to meet someone of substance. We all want to do the best we can when it comes to attracting a mate.
In a few years, you aren’t going to care about this breakup. In fact, it may not even take that long.
Your emotions are interfering with your perspective right now and it’s going to pass – that’s a guarantee. Talk about a great time to get things done!
Take some time to grieve, but afterwards, make good use of your newly found freedom and improve your life and yourself. Think forward!
Lose weight, start exercising, eat better, buy new clothes, treat yourself to a great new haircut, opt for that new job, start a hobby, get out more and socialize. The possibilities are endless.
Life is so much more than one single relationship – I don’t care how much your ex means to you.
Besides, what are you really going to accomplish by putting your life on hold? Is it going to help you get your ex back? Nope. In fact, why would your ex care what you do? You’re only hurting yourself.
It’s funny how we tend to impose this punishment on ourselves and throw everything else out with the relationship. A lot of it has to do with the anguish you’re feeling right now. It’s like if you can’t have your ex, you don’t want anything. Not a good attitude, but if this is where you are, I get it.
Get back in the real world and eventually you’ll get out of this funk. There is so much more to look forward to.