If you are still hoping to get your ex back, the absolute worst thing that could happen is to have them start dating someone new. Coming to terms with something this devastating may be the hardest thing you’ll have to face in this entire ordeal.
In fact, such news has often been the last straw when it comes to getting an ex back for most people. Certainly, it is enough to make you want to pack it in for good. All your hopes and dreams for the future come crashing down in an instant. Up until now, you always held onto the belief that, given enough time, things would return to normal, you’d have your ex back, and you could carry on with your future together.
Of course, that all came crashing down within seconds of hearing the news that they found someone else.
The Situation is Not Hopeless
If you are in this exact predicament, please keep in mind that there is a way out – it is not as hopeless as it seems. One thing you want to keep in mind is that rebound relationships rarely succeed. There’s simply too much on the go from an emotional standpoint – in other words, it’s too soon. It’s going to take time for them to get over you, whether they think so or not.
The only way they would be able to make a clean break is if they absolutely hated the relationship with you; and hopefully there’s not too much chance of that. You can almost guarantee that there are still strong emotional ties there. Okay, that is great, but in the meantime you need to know that your options are few. After all, what are you really going to do? It’s not like you can approach your ex and their new partner and interfere with the relationship. In fact, if you take it upon yourself to try and sabotage the new relationship, you may well be killing your own chances in the future should they eventually break up.
It is certain that they won’t forget your actions in a case like this. Therefore, it really only leaves you with one choice: to stay away, sit on the sidelines and hope that your ex realizes that they made a mistake dumping you. If you are an impatient type, this may be difficult, but keep reminding yourself that things will get better.
You have no choice at the moment but to forget about your ex and let the new relationship fizzle out on its own.
While You’re Waiting
Until that happens, the best thing you can do is to start doing things that will benefit you personally. Concentrate on improving your own life. One thing you absolutely need to do is start getting your social life back. You need to be around people even if you don’t want to be. As well, you should take this time to look at areas of your life that are in need of improvement.
Look at it this way: you now have complete freedom to get out there and make things happen. Take that course you’ve always wanted, learn a new skill, take up a new hobby, do some traveling, meet people from around the world – you’re only limited by your imagination. Yes, your soul-mate isn’t there to share their life with you, but if you play your cards right and maintain some self control, you may have them back sooner than you think.