You Have to Snap Out of This

Things are bad.

Your ex left and you are devastated. So much so that you can barely muster up the courage to get on with the necessary things in life, like your job, paying bills, and interacting with people. While I certainly sympathize with you (I have been there myself), the truth is that you are going to have to toughen up, get a grip and realize that this kind of self-indulgent, feeling sorry for yourself behavior is not going to do anything for you. In fact, it is going to do the opposite of what you need right now.

By all rights, the world should cut you some slack given the seriousness of the situation, right? Do people not realize how much you are hurting? I know how unjust it feels when the world just carries on without you, leaving you to fend for yourself, but the truth is that no one really cares with the exception of those closest to you.

Picture looking at your situation as a casual observer. Are you going to feel compassion for everyone you know who is going through a breakup? No, in fact, you may be more apt to want to give them a kick in the behind and get them to snap out of their stupor. Well, that is, unless they were a close friend or family member and you honestly worried about their emotional well being. But the average person? Nope, not going to care one way or another. And the sooner you get out of this entitlement attitude, the better off you are going to be.

When it comes to your ex, you are not going to get much sympathy. Well, you might, but it is going to be because they feel so guilty for dumping you. But the longer you mope around and seek out sympathy from anyone who’ll listen, the longer you are going to drag this out.

Pick yourself up right now and fight the urge to feel sorry for yourself. Acknowledge the fact that you have had a traumatic experience, but work towards shaking off this feeling of depression. Get out with other people and mingle a little. Do not go on about your problems, instead, just socialize as if your ex did not exist. And try your best to suppress the negative thoughts and feelings you have at the
moment. No one wants to be around someone like that and they do not want to hear about how miserable your life has become. You don’t have to paste on a fake happy face, but you should try your best to look approachable.

But what if you are not able to do this? It is one thing to tell someone to shake it off and get back out there, but something else entirely to actually have to do it yourself. No one knows the depths of your suffering unless they have actually been there.

While it’s true that everyone is different and something like this can really devastate an individual, there are things you can do right now to get back on the right path. For example, you could start taking small steps towards your goal. Instead of forcing yourself to get out there, acting as though nothing is bothering you, maybe you could start by getting out of the house and going for a walk. You don’t have to socialize with anyone, just get used to getting out again. In time, you may feel like getting together with family members and/or friends.

So, get out there now. Drop what you are doing and simply go for a walk. I bet you are going to feel better for doing so.

Can you really get your ex back by sending them a text message?