Can I be honest with you?
There isn’t much hope that you are going to get your ex back.
Deep down, I think you know that.
And even if you do manage to convince them to give you another chance, it’s never going to be the same. At least, there is very little chance that it will be.
The entire situation threatens to overwhelm you.
And chances are, you’re willing to accept any glimmer of hope and run with it. Any sign that he or she is still interested… Because, after all, that is the one thing, the only thing that is going to make you feel okay again. There is no substitute. Even the condolences of your close friends and family will not come close to giving you what you need: Your ex to come back to you.
What you are going through at the moment is the worst kind of pain. In fact, you may be so heartbroken that you feel physically ill. No one else gets it. No one else knows what you’re going through. You feel completely alone.
As bad as this is, and as difficult it may be to simply find the strength to lift your head off the pillow in the morning, you should be aware of one other thing: Your state of mind at this very moment is what will ultimately defeat you. It’s impossible to ignore this level of hurt and pretend that everything is all right.
And guess what? Your ex is all too aware of this.
If it weren’t for that, you may stand a chance.
Sure, it may seem unfair to exploit your weaknesses in a time of personal crisis, but that is exactly what’s going to happen if you continue to engage your ex while you’re still suffering.
They are going to pick up on all this pain and suffering and use it against you. It is simple human nature.
“But I know my ex and they’d never do something like that.”
Really? Are you sure?
Maybe, but we are dealing with something on a whole other level. The bottom line is that you are sending out negativity that is making you look desperate and weak. And even if your ex is the nicest person in the world, they are going to be affected by this and it’s going to change the way they feel about you and the way they view you.
What is one to do then?
Well, unless you are made of stone and simply don’t let things like this bother you, you are well advised to make yourself scarce for a bit until you have your emotions under control. Yeah, I know you’ve read that before and it’s the most parroted advice out on the web these days, but it’s true and it’s the number one thing you can do right this minute to get things moving in your favor.