You’re Making Yourself Sick

Negative emotions are thought to cause illness.

And this isn’t just some half-baked theory purported by a few fringe websites. No, in fact, recent (credible) research has suggested that negative emotions could have a direct effect on our physical health.

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Negative emotions can manifest themselves in many forms. Frustration, anger, fear, the need for revenge, self pity – any one of these (or a combination thereof) can literally act like poison, coursing through your body, causing more harm than you may realize.

I always like to use the example of road rage.

While some of us can’t relate, I am willing to bet that the majority can.

Think about the last time you lost your cool while behind the wheel. What did it feel like? How long did it last? Was your heart rate and blood pressure elevated? Did you feel sick for hours afterward? Remember the funk that you experienced in the hours, or even days, after the incident?

If you are prone to road rage, you know exactly what I’m talking about. It’s that sick feeling you get just moments after the incident – as you are cooling off. If you’re not prone to anger, you may not get this.

But it isn’t always anger. It can be any negative emotion.

To name a few…

But, let’s look at how you are feeling right now. If you’ve been dumped, I can assume that you aren’t doing that great.

You may be experiencing one or more negative feelings at this point in time. Undoubtedly, grief is going to be number one, but anger is certainly mixed in there as well.

How is this making you feel physically? I’m willing to bet, not too good.

My point?

Well, the point is that you have to be aware of how traumatic incidents can affect your health and try to minimize their impact as best you can.

One thing you don’t want to do is prolong your grief (obviously). But if you are unwilling to let go for now, that is exactly what you’re doing. If you can’t stop trying to contact your ex, then you are doing harm to yourself. Yes, it is painful to not do anything, but in the long run, it will mean less overall grief and stress.

Just something to be mindful of during this crazy ordeal.

Okay, but easier said then done, right? I mean, you are fighting some very powerful emotions right now. All you want to do is make-up with your ex. That’s it. And you can’t think of anywhere you’d rather be. The urge to call them, contact them by any means is overwhelming.

Your head is swirling. You text them. They ignore you. You try again. Unable to sleep. Unable to think.

The worst kind of pain and stress.

It’s killing you.

But if you can muster the courage to remove yourself from the situation, you are going to be well on your way to a more peaceful existence. You are going to cut most of that deadly stress out of your life.

My advice is to do this by any means possible. Use sheer willpower, call friends for help – whatever it takes. Then watch your situation improve almost instantly.

Now, don’t get me wrong, your problems aren’t going to disappear. Obviously, you’re still going to be hurting and missing your ex, but you have eliminated any further stress by not escalating the situation.